I noticed how some of the lesbian couples I know solve their problems with sex. My partner and I committed to not using sex as away to solve relationship problems a long time ago since we realize it is not solving the problem at all. Sex is great for letting off some steam and makes both parties ready to talk objectively, but it is not solving the problem at all. To deal with relationship issues in a lesbian relationship, here are the things you need to do.
First of all, address the issues properly. Don’t just discuss the basic, surface, problems but go deeper to find the actual core of relationship issues you are dealing with. By spotting the actual source of problems properly, you can actually solve the problem effectively and avoid causing more issues in the future. If both you and your partner are not capable of determining the primary source of issues in your relationship, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. The goal is to safe your relationship, and seeking professional help will help you solve issues as well as have better relationship.
If you want, the two of you can take a break. Make sure both of you agree on certain terms first before deciding to go on a relationship break. There are a lot of other lesbian personals and women seeking women out there, and it can be pretty devastating if you or your partner is engaged in another casual relationship while the other party disagrees. Taking some time off the relationship can help you understand what you really are looking for from the partnership. You will soon realize what is causing all the issues and troubles.
Once you find the actual core, deal with this primary issue and solve it once and for all. Make compromises and demand things in equal proportion so that the relationship remains mutually beneficial for both parties. You will be surprised seeing just how wonderful your relationship can be once you solved all the issues and removed all the obstacles; your relationship with your partner will be stronger than ever.